It’s time for us to get better at setting healthy boundaries!
I feel like I spent most of my thirties unlearning toxic habits and then learning to set healthy boundaries. It’s been challenging for me, but thanks to my therapist, I’m finally starting to notice my growth and how I’ve been showing up for myself by setting healthy boundaries and honoring them.
Why is setting healthy boundaries so important?
When I first started on my self-care journey, I realized that one of the main factors contributing to my stress was not having boundaries in place. I’ve been good at shutting people out or separating myself from them, but that was a toxic practice that would make me prematurely sever people from my life. Having relationships with people I love is important to me so I had to figure out how to set boundaries in those relationships.
Setting boundaries forces me to have difficult conversations, share my feelings, and say no when something doesn’t work for me. It also helps me give people in my life to do the same and express what works for them. This even includes my children, who I encourage to set healthy boundaries too.
Photo Credit: Adelaide Chantilly Photos
Say what you mean and mean what you say!
It’s hard to set boundaries when you don’t always speak your truth! I had a professor in grad school who always said, “Say what you mean, and mean what you say!” and he would follow that up with, “Most people don’t.” At the time, I understood what he meant, but until I started trying to establish my boundaries, I realize that this practice isn’t easy and most people really don’t. I found that people were happy when I didn’t establish boundaries with them but were quick to set their boundaries. This would cause me distress, but I’ve learned to express myself even when it feels weird so that I can be my full self.
Boundaries on social media
One of the things that I’ve realized over the years is that people are a bit more daring on social media than in real life. They will overstep your boundaries in ways that they would never in real life. Setting boundaries on social media for me includes unfollowing, blocking, deleting disrespectful comments, and letting people know I’m not seeking unsolicited advice (many people don’t understand the concept of venting), muting, or deleting the apps from my phones.
Also, it’s important to keep your boundaries consistent in real life and online.
Remember setting healthy boundaries will improve your life.
Setting boundaries will be hard at times, especially with your loved ones but keep in mind that you will improve your life and overall happiness. Sometimes we have to do difficult things to get to live the way we desire.
Healthy boundaries will make you a better mom, partner, friend and family member.
Adanna Dill
Also, don’t be one-sided! Encourage your friends and family to set boundaries too, so everyone will be happy.
13 ways to improve your wellness routine as a working Mom.
Why is taking care of others so much easier than taking care of ourselves? I try to remind myself that I need to care for myself the way that I care for my three children. I cater to their every need and sometimes that leaves me with no energy for myself. That’s why I’ve focused over the last few years on I focus on a realistic wellness routine for moms like myself. I shared some of my self-care rituals earlier this year and now I want to share a realistic wellness routine for busy working moms. Here are a few things we can implement into our lifestyle to improve the quality of our bodies, mind and overall wellbeing.
Movement aka Exercise
Last night, I attended an event here in New York City where Tonya Lewis Lee, the executive producer of She’s Gotta Have It spoke on wellness, motherhood, and entrepreneurship. She shared with us that she has focused on making her body “army fit” by exercising four days a week (don’t worry even she falls off the bandwagon at times when life gets busy) but one thing that struck out to me was her explaining that even when her children were little and needed more of her she prioritized taking care of herself so she could take care of them and be physically strong enough to pursue her goals full force once they were older. She suggested that we make small lifestyle changes like going for a walk instead of going out to eat or drink.
I stretch daily and exercise around twice a week these days, I would like to get up to three or four days a week because I feel so much more confident, happier and strongest when I’m exercising regularly.
Meditation
I love meditating! You might have remembered me taking my first meditation class back in September and since then I’ve done a few more and meditate on my own almost daily. It really centers me and I can literally feel the stress leaving my body when I do it. My favorite meditation that I’ve tried so far is sound meditation and I even did a sound bath that at an event my friend curated late last year.
Establish Boundaries.
The first time I heard of boundaries as a wellness tool was listening to the Hey Girl podcast. I can’t recall the exact episode but it made so much sense to me immediately. Everyone doesn’t deserve to be given access to our entire life. Creating boundaries helps us to feel safer and to protect our energy which is really important. When I was younger, I would cut people out of my life but as I’ve matured I realized that is toxic and doesn’t end problems or the stress. I can just create boundaries in our relationship. Once you establish boundaries your days will be less stressful.
Create a preventative plan.
Taking time to learn our family’s health history and then creating a preventative plan to protect our bodies is important. For instance, both of my maternal grandparents had diabetes and I had gestational diabetes while pregnant with my oldest child. I learned that chia seeds can control blood sugar so I started adding it to my water an smoothies. I also using moringa regularly which protects our bodies from a long list of diseases.
Journal or video journal.
Whether you write or video journal (I do both), getting your thoughts out of your head is really important and should be part of your daily wellness routine. When you start feeling yucky feelings like envy and anger get it out of your body immediately. Try to determine why you’re feeling that way and how you could change your life so you don’t experience that feeling again. A few years ago, if I ever felt gross after gossiping I would close my eyes and visualize myself asking the person to forgive me. Doing this always helps me to immediately clear my energy whenever I’m in that situation.
Drink Water and mind your business.
Minding your business will cut down on jealousy feelings and gossiping and will help you to achieve your goals fast plus you will have more time to drink more water and be healthier.
Therapy.
We all have crap that we need to work through whether it’s from our childhood, relationships, career etc. the best way to not have it affect our health in the long term is to address it all through therapy. As many of you know I’ve been to therapy before and I am a big advocate for mental health care since it’s just as important and our physical health.
Use your time wisely.
Social media could suck us in for hours but using our time to bond with our loved ones is much better for our wellness. I know this is weird coming from a blogger since social media is how I connect and share my journey with my community but it’s important to connect intentionally and then log off. Instagram now gives you the option to get an alert when you’re on the app for over a certain period of time that you can select and some smartphones track your social media usage which is helpful.
Have a spiritual practice.
Whether you participate in religion or not, you need to have a daily spiritual practice that you can use to center yourself. Personally, I pray every morning which makes me feel good.
Join a likeminded tribe.
Hanging out with people with similar interests and goals would make you feel energized on a daily basis. Having friends who you can try new yoga classes with or who can share healthy recipes will make your wellness journey a little easier.
Listen to your body.
The fascinating thing about our bodies is that they let us know exactly what they need when we’re listening. If your body is tired then sleep if your body craving greens eat them if your body needs to move then dance or exercise. Also, when you body is ill, get the best care you can for it.
Keep track of triggers.
We all would prefer not to remember any of our past traumas, but we usually get triggered when we least expect it with many times not realizing what the trigger is. Determining what our triggers are can be helpful for us to avoid them. Write down a list of possible triggers and then avoid them as much as you can. Maybe even tell your close friends and family so they can help.
Be honest with yourself about your energy.
The fact that many people seem to not realize they have negative energy (or they are the negative energy) shows how unaware many of us are of negativity in our lives. Be honest with yourself so you can make your energy brighter, clearer and improve yourself in the process.
How have you done to improve your wellness routine?
I’m on my 8thyear as a parent and I have to say that I’m learning that my kids need more than love, a good education, nutritious meals, socialization, weather appropriate clothing, extracurricular activities etc. Those things are necessary, but my kids also need tools to help them through life’s challenges, and stressors. I started introducing them to mindfulness activities over the past few years and it’s been great for them. I’ve been more deliberate this year about mindfulness and practicing self-care as a family. This weekend, we took a meditation class together and it’s safe to say we’l be adding meditation to our daily routine. Here’s the thing, I only learned about mindfulness as an adult and it’s so important to my overall wellbeing that I’m teaching my children while they’re kids. I want it to be an integral part of their self-care routine by the time they become adults. I think as a woman of color, it’s especially important for me to teach my children self-care at a young age, it’s armor for them. Here are a few mindfulness activities for kids that you can add to your family’s routine too:
Gratitude
Back in the spring, I decided to ask my kids one night at bedtime to share one thing they’re happy for and one thing they thankful for that day. Since then it’s become part of our nightly routine before we say our prayers, if I forget they would remind me. I’ve listened to my children celebrate each on many nights as they up on each other’s list, I listened to them express gratitude for friendships, experiences, family and it fills my heart every night. This exercise is powerful, and I hope they continue doing it for the rest of their lives.
Meditation
As I mentioned earlier, we attended a family mediation class together hosted by Tropicana Kids at MNDFL and it was exactly what we needed to feel centered. Personally, I started meditating around the time I was pregnant with my son (I had tried it a few times as a teenager, thanks to all the references to it in reggae music). I started with guided meditations. If you’re new to meditating, guided meditations are a great way to start if you can’t find a class in your area or don’t want to attend one, there are now apps like Calm, Headspace and Buddify. You can watch tons of YouTube videos and there are books like Dan Rather’s Meditation for Fiddety Skeptics. Meditation is a really good mindful activity for kids to practice, the earlier they’re introduced to it, the better.
ps: NYC moms, MNDFL has an excellent school program, you can learn more about it or request they bring it to your kids school here.
My daughter making the mind jar.
Mind Jar
One of the things we did at our mediation class was to create a mind jar to explain to kids how our brain works and how we can calm it. We added water and glitter to the jar and shake it up. The glitter went all over which showed the kids how scattered our thoughts are when we aren’t mindful and then how it settles when we’re calm. This is a fantastic activity for kids as they’re very visual.
Deep Breathing
One thing I admire about my son is that, at only 5 years of age. He’s very aware of his needs. Whenever he needs to clear his brain, he practices deep breathing. Sometimes we do it together, and other times he does it alone.
Affirmations and Power Posing
I shared before that every morning I do affirmations and power posing with my kids before they leave for school. I was inspired to start this when Amy Cuddy shared all about the power of power posing at Cosmopolitan Fearless Female conference a few years ago.
Coloring and Art
Coloring is wonderful mindful activity! My daughter and I both have coloring books and she loves spending time coloring all of the
Essential Oils
This is an area where I would like to invest my time into learning more this year. I have an essential oil blend that helped me with my anxiety throughout my pregnancy and post-partum period. I use lavender in our home at night to get the kids calm before bed, but I would like to add more essential oils to our routine in the next few months.
What mindfulness activities do you practice with your children?
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In the last few weeks, I’ve been taking advantage of the lovely summer weather and going to the beach. I am all about the beach bum life. I love sea, sun and sand. It only comes naturally as an island girl. It’s so relaxing to get to the beach and strip down to enjoy the warm sun on usually covered parts of your body. I find it to be a liberating experience and I just bask in that freedom. The first time we went to the beach this season, we were so focused on our Father’s Day treasure hunt that I didn’t pay much attention to other fellow beach bums. However, last week I had all the time to focus and dare I say stare a bit. I noticed something that bothered me a whole lot. Moms who seemed to be determined to hide their bodies. Now, of course, I don’t know everyone’s story but what I saw felt like a trend, women on the beach with their families wearing t-shirts over their bathing suits or fully clothed. I saw one mom go into the water fully clothed. This bothered me on many levels. I know that our society isn’t the nicest to us, we are told that our bodies are unattractive after bringing life into the world and if we don’t look like the ladies on the runways we aren’t beautiful.
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We need to refuse to believe those lies. We are beautiful! Having babies is beautiful and it makes us much more beautiful. All of the experiences that lead us to lose or gain weight makes us more beautiful. The beautiful kids that we are raising see us as beautiful.
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If you don’t believe you’re beautiful, wear your swimsuit anyway. I am 10 pounds heavier than my usual weight and I didn’t let that stop me from wearing my swimsuit. When I see another mom post a photo on social media in her swimsuit, I make sure to compliment her to encourage not just her but her followers. We can let other moms know it’s okay. Really, it’s okay to wear a swimsuit! Ask your husband, I’m sure he doesn’t want to see you getting into the water on the beach in jeans and a t-shirt. If we change our expectations of each other, we will change our expectations of ourselves and not be too hard on ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not preaching here. I am part of the congregation.
Here’s a simple tool to make it towards the end of 2015 proud and celebrating more success than defeats. It’s by starting every single day with an open heart and a positive attitude. I am a strong believer in incorporating daily positive affirmations into my morning routine.
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It all started when I attended a corporate retreat a few years ago. My coworkers and I were looking forward to an easy day but instead we ended up learning how to grow personally. Now if you know anything about me, you know that any new knowledge that furthers my self-development really gets me excited. One of the sessions was on the importance of a daily positive affirmations practice. You see as Iyanla Vanzant put it, we sometimes have “humping puppies” in our heads. You know how you train your puppy and it behaves well but soon as a guest comes over he starts humping on their legs nonstop. Well, when we start to believe negative things about ourselves and our lives they behave like humping puppies in our heads. If let’s say your humping puppy is saying “I’m stupid” no matter what you do, you will think “I’m stupid”, “I’m stupid”, “I’m stupid.” This could have been something a relative said to you out of anger as a child and it stuck with you for all these years. If you make a typo on a report at work or take the wrong exit on the highway, you’re going to say “I’m stupid” and it will become part of your belief system. Here’s the thing though, we are Moms in Heels, we are not and we have no time to nurture negativity in our minds and within our families. That’s why I wanted to share this list of daily positive affirmations. You can print them and put them up above your work area or in your bathroom or just memorize them to recite during your commute or your times of stillness.
If you usually wake up feeling anxious or with a negative mindset, here is my nighttime routine to ensure I wake up with positive energy. Click here for the article, you may find it helpful.
Don’t be afraid to practice daily affirmations with your kids, on the way to school every morning the Princess Fairy and I point the day in a positive direction by reciting these and other kid friendly ones (I’ll share hers in another post).
Daily Positive Affirmations to make in 2015:
I feel energized.
I have a mission.
I choose happiness.
I can do this.
I am compassionate.
I love myself.
I am in charge of me.
I am present.
I put me first.
I am making good choices.
I am ready.
I am on my way.
I am connected to life.
I trust myself.
I can do anything.
I have what I need.
I know my life has meaning.
I hold things tightly.
I listen to my heart.
I am blessed.
I am happy.
I can change.
I am taking steps to be healthier.
I am beautiful.
I love my body more and more.
I speak gently to myself.
I look forward.
I won’t be taken for granted.
I am powerful.
I am becoming who I want to be.
I am connected to all there is.
My heart is open.
I matter.
I discover new joys of living every day.
I move at the perfect pace.
I trust my inner wisdom and intuition.
Are positive affirmations a part of your morning routine?
I am hosting this giveaway on behalf of Hotmilk Lingerie. As usual, all opinions are my own.
When I was younger, my mother owned a lingerie store and I worked there for about 3 years. In that time, I learned the importance of the right undergarments. I’m so glad that I had that experience because I always focus on my undergarments when I dress. Let’s face it, you can have the most gorgeous dress but if your underwear doesn’t fit well or the wrong size it will ruin your outfit. I think the hardest period for us women to find the perfect underwear pieces especially bras is immediately after giving birth. I shared some tips and outfit ideas here and in my postpartum styling video to get through that period but I wanted to ensure that you get the right size bra. It’s important that you educate yourself on bra measurements and to find the right size. You may need to abandon these bras later as your body changes again and you lose pregnancy weight but to be comfortable I would recommend that you invest in a few new bras for this period.
If you don’t feel comfortable with a stranger taking your measurements or you are ordering online you can measure your bust size at home.
Okay, so once you’ve determined your size it’s time to get a new bra. Finding nursing bras that don’t look like granny underwear is a serious challenge. Recently, I learned about Hotmilk Lingerie which got me really excited. I have to say that I love this company’s name, fits the brand perfectly. Hotmilk sells beautiful nursing and maternity bras. If you are determined to not slip up and lose your sexy during and after pregnancy these bras are perfect for you. What I love about Hotmilk is their flexi-wire system, I remember my Lamaze class teacher telling us to purchase nursing bras without under-wires during my first pregnancy and thinking “Say what?” She explained that under-wires reduce your milk production. That may be the case for some women (wasn’t for me) but if you want to be on the safe side the flexi-wire is perfect or you can choose from the brand wire-less bras which are perfect for sleeping in. Here’severything you need to know about how flexiwire works.
Here are some of my favorite styles from Hotmilk Lingerie.
Nursing Bras
Their prices are average for bras, most on their website were $57 with some on sale for $29. Hotmilk is based in Australia but they ship worldwide and shipping is free over $80. If you’re pregnant or nursing, I have good news for you because Hotmilk is sponsoring a giveaway to one of my readers of their Dawn Black nursing bra. ps: This bra is wireless.You can check out their website here. Giveaway ends on December 18, 2014.
I’m so excited for the hot mama who wins this bra. Good luck!
Remaining inspired while feeding my spirit is very important to me. I’m a strong believer that the way you go to bed at night sets up your morning and how you start your morning determines the direction of your day. I try to relax at night and I like to listen to a podcast as I unwind and prepare for bed. Depending on my mood or how my day went I would listen to either Joel Osteen , The Daily Boost or Trish Blackwell (All free on itunes).
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In the morning, I use my Gratitude app. on my iPad to take note of all the things that I am grateful for and then I pray. For the past year, I’ve been doing bible study plans on Youversion Bible app. that I downloaded from iTunes. My favorite plan so far is the Joyce Meyer Promises for Everyday life that I am currently doing. This app. is free and what I appreciate most about it is that it will sync with all of my devices automatically so I can stay on track. Also, I try to read the The Daily Motivator every morning but I don’t always have the time so I slip it in during the day while I’m out and about.
My goal is to keep my life positive and drama free and since I am naturally a pessimist I like to read uplifting sites such as Positively Positive and one of my new favorites, Tiffy Talks which is written by Tiffany Wilson one of the awesome bloggers I connected with at the Blogging While Brown Conference.
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Besides reading uplifting material, I sometimes listen to music that makes me feel better from my iTunes library or using the Pandora app. I like conscious reggae and neo soul music for those moments when my soul needs a little nurturing.
Mobile technology and social networking are integral parts of bloggers lives. Many of us balance many different roles and are always on the move so we must get inspiration on the go. While I was at the Blogging While Brown Conference, along with a few other bloggers I participated in the AT&T Inspired Mobility Campaign. I shared how I use technology to find inspiration on the go with Eva of Socamom.
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Check out the videos from the campaign!
Isn’t it wonderful to learn how others are using technology to stay inspired?
I hope this post gives *you* plenty inspiration and ideas to remain inspired on the go.
I started to writing this post and deleted a few times because of fear. Yes, fear that terrible feeling that constantly gets in my way of doing just about everything that I really want to do. I am slowly fighting through just overcoming my fears one at a time. So where should I start with this one?
I love to draw.
Yes, I love drawing and when I was a child I imagined myself as an adult doing nothing but drawing all day. If you’re reading this and you knew me before I was 17 years old, you’ll probably remember me constantly drawing and filling up my notebooks and drawing books.That’s what I did all day and night and I even won some awards and an international competition. However, once I graduated from high school at 16, I stopped.
Why? Because I felt confused, scared and overwhelmed about the life I was now in charge of “creating” for myself. As a creative person, I was concerned to the point of my detriment that if I followed my heart I would end up broke, hungry and “unsuccessful.” Besides, I self-sabotaged a few times when I had opportunities to make a career drawing, like when I applied to Fashion Institute of Technology but didn’t include my portfolio because I was scared that my skills wouldn’t measure up to other applicants.
But you know what I’ve experienced in the last few years? Like Steven Pressfield, author of The Art of War explained on OWN’s Super Soul Sunday “the pain of not doing it became greater than doing it.” The pain got more intense during my pregnancy with my son, a time when I experienced some self-growth. Something inside told me that it was time to start back drawing but when my pencil hit the paper, I wasn’t proud of my work. I felt like after all those years, it wasn’t like a bicycle I couldn’t just start off where I left off. I found myself slightly embarrassed and extremely subconscious of my work.
The embarrassment led to me hoarding my work and not sharing even with those closest to me. But lately, I realized that makes it harder for me, I still feel as if I am not creating because I am not sharing.
So, I’ve decided that the best way to overcome this fear is to share. Everyone may not like my work and that’s okay because we all have different tastes and preferences. I want to share where my work is today and where my work will be one year and five years from today. Beyond that, I want to use this blog to share something even more personal that I’ve never shared before even as a child, my characters stories. You see every character that I have drawn since I was three years old has a story. I just think it’s unfair to only share the visual image without the background.
Since I am divulging so much on this topic I wanted to add another tidbit. Last January, I started to write a comic series called “Rattled” for this blog, I worked on it diligently for a few months but eventually I backed out because of you know – good old fear. I wanted to publicly share this because I want to make myself accountable to I finish the projects that I start and to stop holding on to everything that I create in fear of others not liking it.
I guess just writing this post was cathartic because I feel much lighter and a bit closer to who the true authentic Adanna is supposed to be.
I want you to join me on my journey to get past this fear, create and share. I know you’re probably a perfectionist and you can’t let the world into your “behind the scenes” but I promise this is a judgement free zone. Let’s do it together and support each other!
Share a fear you want to overcome and how you plan to do it.
Maybe it’s because my birthday is so close to New Year’s Day, only a week after the calendar year changes. Whenever my birthday comes around, I like to take some time during the day to reflect on my location on my life’s journey and make plans to get my next destination. Now that I’m officially in my thirties, I feel a sense of firmness on the ground on which I stand. I’m quite sure about who I am and what I want. I can’t pinpoint the moment when I relaxed into my skin and cuddled my own heart so tightly but I am sure glad that I did.
Today I think about all the things that I wish that I knew and understood 5 – 10 years ago. I have no regrets, the lessons that I’ve learned shaped me into the person who I am today. But there are a few things that I wish I knew. Things that I would like to share and hopefully these are lessons that my children would appreciate learning from me.
Always listen to your heart and let it guide you.
I made so many decisions based on hard facts, statistics and research findings because I was always afraid to make a mistake. I blame the availability of the internet, at any moment I could “research” anything and as a result I’ve found some information that deterred major life decisions. It’s come at great costs; I’ve missed out on many opportunities that had the potential to change my life.
Never allow fear to stagnate your growth.
Throughout my twenties I was ruled by fear; fear of failure, fear of change and fear of the unknown. It’s really only been in the last two years that I’ve realized that my fears were a major barrier for me and made the decision to get past them. How did I overcome them? I created more spiritual balance and spent a lot time reconnecting with my soul. There were points where I felt like I had run into an old friend. I started to reminisce about dreams that I neglected and soon felt energized again. I gained clarity and understood that my fears were responsible for me not fulfilling my life’s purpose.
Make every decision independently.
Some of the worst decisions that I made were because I listened to advice and took it from the wrong people. I’m happy to have learned this lesson. Now that I make all my decisions independently, I feel emancipated. I ensure that I dedicate time to quietly deliberate and listen to God’s guidance.
Live in the moment.
I struggle with constantly looking forward to the future and holding onto the past. The present moment? I have a hard time sinking into. I’ve become better but I have a long way to go. My children devoid of life experiences are always in the moment. That allows them to truly bask in all of life greatness. When I play with them I follow their lead and I enjoy their company and their influence into not thinking about anything else.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
I’ve had a very hard time asking for and accepting help. I remember one of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday shows where they discussed the inability to ask for help. The guest (I can’t recall who it was) said that if you judge other people harshly when they ask you for help. You’ll judge yourself harshly when you need to ask for help. I don’t judge others harshly, I love been able to help and over the years I’ve developed an admiration for people who are brave enough make themselves vulnerable by asking. I think that this is one of the areas that fear stifles me because I still have that fear that I would appear weak and dependent.
Put God above everything.
I’ve always had a relationship with God but I had moments where I questioned his existence or strayed. In the last few years my faith has been strengthened and I feel much more confident about my life. He’s my safety net and because of that I’m not scared to face tough challenges.
Believe in your dreams.
My dreams have always been clear to me but I’ve had a hard time consistently believing in them. I used to fight myself to create more “realistic” dreams or “safer” dreams. Now, I’ve accepted that I will never really live my life fully if I don’t embrace the dreams that have been put in my heart for a reason.
Persistence pays off.
I used to run at the first bell. If I started a project and I got any indication of trouble I would discontinue immediately. As a result, I ended up with a trail of unfinished projects and “what-ifs”. I’m now adamant to finish anything that I start. When I hit roadblocks or challenges I slow down and let my creativity take control.
Trust in God’s Timing.
I used to allow perceived disappointments to frustrate me. I believe that my emotional maturity allows me to accept that things don’t always happen in the time slot that I allocate but that doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen. I’ve learned not to fight too hard to get it done when I get disappointed but to accept that the time is just not right. I think having two kids helped me with this. During both of my pregnancies, I convinced myself that I would give birth between 37-38 weeks. Both of my kids were born past their due date. Those last few weeks were difficult but I learned that no matter how many plans I made, I just had to wait. That’s how everything else in life works.
What are some of the lessons that you’ve learned that you would like to share with your younger self, children or younger loved ones? Please share.
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